By Randi Locke
Gen Z and Millenials are the generation of change. From making advances in education to breaking generational curses, these two generations have managed to make the best of trying times. But at what cost? Studies have shown that these two generations are falling behind in their platonic and romantic relationships. With the marriage rate at its lowest and only 1 out of ten adults living with a romantic partner, older generations wonder why millennials and Gen Z are not only less eager to marry but less likely to socialize. The reasons are lack of finances, social media, and the reduction of “third spaces”.This lack of relationships outside of work impacts more than one’s social status. A study conducted in 2022 by Harvard stated that 1/3 of Americans between the ages of 18- and 25 feel alone. Which is the highest reported amongst any of the generations. Why is this so concerning? In 2015, UCLA found that social isolation can lead to chronic inflammation; leaving them more likely to develop conditions like heart disease and Alzheimer’s. This surge in isolation can lead to dire consequences for Millenials and Gen Z if it does not get addressed.
Social media and loneliness
Social media allows the means to connect with people regardless of distance. Despite negative social media experiences causing a 13% rise in loneliness across all age groups, a study done by Kaiser showed that lonely people turn to social media, however, they found that they log off feeling even lonelier than before. This is often because they would compare themselves to the images that they see on their feeds. Though they are aware this information does not fully depict a person’s life, the feeling of inadequacy still lingers. The solution for this is physical interaction. Although physical interaction is a necessity, over 31% of adults state that they find making friends difficult. Yet 56% of Gen Z reports making friends with people they met online.
Removal of third spaces
Third spaces are “Spaces outside of work and home that encourage social interaction outside of the people you work with and the people at home”. Third spaces were often places like coffee shops, libraries, parks, churches, and bars. These spaces were often accessible by a short drive or within walking distance. These places are not only accessible, but they foster community by facilitating events and informing the community on what is going on around them. Now, these third spaces are being less frequented due to social media apps, streaming, and inflation. One of the biggest reasons is due to suburban sprawl. As previously stated, third spaces were often accessible by walking or a short car ride. However, zoning has made it so suburbs and densely populated cities are separated by highways. Making a simple night out with friends turns into a large expense.
Economy and loneliness
Despite 38% of Millenials having at least a bachelor’s Degree and nearly 59% of Gen Z pursuing higher education, the amount they make does not match the amount needed to survive. Millennials’ wages have decreased by 7.6% and consumer prices have increased by 4% as of December 2023. This combined with the average amount of debt being $48,611 for millennials and $16,283 for Gen Z, they are forced to compensate by taking on more work and adjusting plans. Nine out of ten postgraduates are aware that they must take on some sort of side hustle. Because of this over 25% of Gen Z feel they do not have a healthy balance between work and social life. Forty One percent of both Millenials and Gen Z stated that if they had more time they would devote the time to their friends and family.
How do we combat loneliness?
Though the battle to fight loneliness is daunting, it is not impossible. The United Kingdom has adopted a nationwide questionnaire for doctors to detect loneliness in patients. Allowing them to recommend treatments outside of medication. To alleviate some loneliness and to save money 20% of Millenials and 68% of Gen Z live at home with their families. Although social media and technology can foster isolation, it can be used for good. As a response to isolation during the pandemic, some therapists have been hosting group therapy sessions for free on games like animal crossing. This became so popular that the therapists kept the sessions going even after the quarantine ceased. For those who work from home, there are co-working spaces that offer a monthly membership fee in exchange for a small workspace. Forcing you to not only get out of the house but to make new friends. Loneliness may seem like a tough battle but it does not have to be permanent.
